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5 Wedding Traditions that are still seen in Modern wedding ceremonies

Many of the traditions associated with modern day wedding ceremonies have their roots in the customs and rituals of our ancestors. Here are a few of the origins and meanings behind some of our most cherished wedding traditions

1. The Bride stands on the left and the groom on the right.

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It is believed that this wedding tradition dates back to the times when the groom would ‘capture’ his bride by kidnapping her. If the groom had to fight off unwanted admirers who also wanted her as their bride, he would hold his love with his left hand while then leaving his hand free to use his sword. This tradition is still seen in modern ceremonies today, but no sword, thankfully.

Luckily, no sword needed here in a modern ceremony.

2. The Wedding cake..

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A lovely wedding tradition, of course, is the Wedding cake itself. Cutting of the cake is still very much a part of modern ceremonies. This wedding tradition dates back to the Roman times where cakes were made There are records of wedding cakes being made although they were more like unsweetened loaves of bread. Over the centuries the cake design has developed into what we know as the traditional wedding cake. It was said that if a couple could kiss over the top of their cake that they would have prosperity in their future life together. In a modern wedding ceremony, the tradition of a couple cutting the cake together symbolises their commitment to each other.

Traditionally the top tier would then be kept as a cake to be used at the christening or Naming Ceremony of their first child (as long as it was a fruit cake 🙂

Beautiful and Elegant wedding cake

3.Tossing the Bouquet

Traditionally after the wedding ceremony, photos are taken. In days gone by, there were no photo’s but the women would mark the occasion by trying to tear pieces of the Bride’s dress and flowers in order to obtain some of her good luck. To get away from the crowd the bride would throw her bouquet and then run away. Now, in a modern wedding ceremony, the bouquet is thrown with the bride’s back to the guests with the belief that whoever catches it will be the next to marry.

Modern wedding ceremony – Bride tossing the bouquet

4.Third finger, left hand.

This is one of the most beautiful wedding traditions. Again it dates back to Roman times. The Romans believed that that the vein in third finger on the left hand runs directly to the heart and that the wedding ring represents a never-ending circle, symbolising everlasting love.

Today this is a wedding tradition that is still seen in modern wedding ceremonies all over the world. Wedding rings are not just for the bride now, grooms are happy to wear them too. When planning a wedding, the purchasing of the wedding rings are high on the list of the wedding to do list.

Hands and Hearts combined

5. Wedding favours

Again, this wedding tradition is still very much part of the wedding day in modern ceremonies. Traditionally, these were small edible gifts, usually sugared almonds symbolising Fertility, Longevity, Wealth, Health and Happiness. In modern ceremonies, they tend to be a keepsake for the guests from the married couple. Couples create their own favours and can be anything from a box containing a lottery ticket to personalised candles or packets of seeds. It depends on the couple, their theme and of course budget.

A wonderful keepsake

Of course, these wedding traditions do not have to be kept. Modern day ceremonies include so many different things that are really special to each couple. These days there are so many options open to couples who want to get married and there is more freedom when choosing the place that you want the ceremony to take place. Beautiful venues, the outdoors, castles, the beach or even your own back garden, and to conduct these ceremonies a celebrant is all you need and LOVE of course. http://kendellcelebrantservices.com/weddings/ http://kendellcelebrantservices.com/category/weddings/

Top 5 poems and readings for a rustic wedding ceremony

Beautiful Rustic Wedding Ceremony

Poems and Readings are so beautiful when the right ones have been chosen for your perfect day. They reflect your personalities and your love for one another.

I have chosen 5 beautiful poems and readings that are suitable for any ceremony but especially when being outside with nature and it’s beauty.

Outdoor weddings are so on-trend now. You can personalise your outdoor space in lot’s of different ways. A beautiful theme for a wedding ceremony is the Rustic style. Beautiful wood, natural materials, and flowers make for a lovely setting. Include one of the following poems or readings and your ceremony will be complete. I absolutely love them as I have a connection with them all. I am sure that will suit the romantic and open couple that you are. Take a look at http://kendellcelebrantservices.com/weddings/

i wanna be yours – by john cooper clarke

Originally released as a song in 1982, it is now used in wedding ceremonies as a poem due to it’s realistic lyrics. It still holds a romantic side but in the day to day lives of modern people. Modern couples are having rustic weddings now and the outdoors is a perfect place to say this poem to your partner ” I wanna be your vacuum cleaner, breathing in your dust” is only one of the quirky but beautiful lines included. http://johncooperclarke.com/poems/i-wanna-be-yours

The one – Author unknown

Imagine saying this to your loved one in your Rustic ceremony. I’m just going to put it right in here as it is one of the most amazing poems I have read and heard. It brings tears to your eyes……..Enjoy

When the one whose hand you’re holding
Is the one one who holds your heart
When the one whose eyes you gaze into
Gives your hopes and dreams their start,
When the one you think of first and last
Is the one who holds you tight,
And the things you plan together
Make the whole world seem just right,
When the one whom you believe in
puts their faith and trust in you,
You’ve found the one and only love
You’ll share your whole life through.
” Enough said – BEAUTIFUL

The Song from the Wedding Singer –

i want to make you smile whenever you’re sad

This film is one of my favourites. It’s probably because I grew up in the same era and to be honest the 80’s were the best, yes they were 🙂 Even though it is so lovely as a song, try saying the words. There is a definite rhythm and you can just visualise saying it to your loved one. You may have to sing a little bit though, if you really want to. Good enough for a Rustic wedding, yes definitely, box ticked. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CoPQrB-ue8U

if ever there is tomorrow when we’re not together

‘Winnie the Pooh by A.A Milne

Winnie the Pooh

Who doesn’t love Winnie the Pooh. He lives in the Hundred acre wood with his friends. Wow, why not have your Rustic wedding ceremony set in a place that would replicate the Hundred acre Wood. How amazing would that be!

the day i married my best friend

How lucky are you to be marrying your best friend. The person that you tell your innermost thoughts and feelings to. They know you inside and out and vice versa, warts and all, marvellous, just marvellous

“This day I married my best friend
the one I laugh with as we share life’s wonderous zest,
as we find new enjoyments and experience all that’s best.
the one I live for because the world seems brighter
as our happy times are better and our burdens feel much lighter.
the one I love with every fiber of my soul.
We used to feel vaguely incomplete, now together we are whole.

Whatever poems and readings you choose for the most wonderful day of your life, I’m sure that you will choose ones that resonate most with both of you. Remember that it is all about you two, your day, your wedding, your life.

Are you thinking of renewing your wedding vows with a celebrant?

Do you need help and advice on what to say when renewing your wedding vows? Are you having trouble finding the right words to say? Don’t worry, you’ll find some tips and advice here at Kendell Celebrant Services. https://www.pinterest.co.uk/lisakendell/celebrant-led-renewal-of-vow-ceremony-ideas/

Should it be simple or ostentatious?

Simplicity is the key to this wonderful day. Think about why you are renewing your vows. Is it a turning point in your relationship and reaffirming your love for one another. It doesn’t have to be all glitz and glamour. It should come from the heart.

There were things that I wanted to include in my wedding ceremony but I couldn’t can I now?

There are no limitations when you are renewing your vows, you can have whatever you want? Depending on when the wedding was a lot of couples didn’t have the choices that we have these days. There may have been a song that you wanted to walk in to but your only choice was ‘Here comes the Bride.’ well now it’s your chance to have whatever song means the most to you. It maybe the song you first danced to at the disco when you first met

I’m scared of what to say in my renewal of vows? Where do I start?

It can be scary but once you start putting pen to paper you will find that things or moments will come to you which you would dearly love to include in vow renewal. This wonderful ceremony is about the love you have for each other and the jotting down of memorable times in your live is what makes you two so unique. You shared these times together, they mean a lot to you so yes, include them in your vow renewal, they will then be another memory to treasure. If you need any help then you could always ask a wedding celebrant to help you. http://kendellcelebrantservices.com/renewal-of-vows/

Do we have to wear our original wedding outfits?

It is totally up to you. Some people do because it reminds them of their day, some people don’t because of the fashion at the time. It really depends on the nature of your occasion. Is it casual or formal. You may not have wanted to wear wedding attire the first time around, so go with what you feel. The most important part is your wedding vows and reflecting on your continued love for each other.

We got married in a church the first time, do we have to do that again?

Not at all. This wedding vow ceremony can be held absolutely anywhere. There is no legal side to a wedding renewal and so holds no licensing restrictions. It is a ceremony that is reaffirming your love for one another. It’s all about you two.

I don’t like the thought of walking down an aisle. Do I have to?

That’s okay, you don’t need to do that. As you are already married, you could maybe walk in together or like one of my couples chose to do, they walked in from either side and met in the middle. It was pure joy.

What about bridesmaids and page boys? Should I have them?

For renewal of vows it would be an idea not to have any attendants, ie best man, matron of honour, bridesmaids etc. Instead, create a special role for some of the children if you want them to be involved. An order of service for the day would be a wonderful way to get them involved. Get the children to make them so that they are definitely individual. They can then give them out on the day.

Do we need to buy new rings for our renewal of vows ceremony?

This is personal to both of you. You can if you wish or have your original ones. For a wedding renewal that I officiated, the groom decided to buy his wife a beautiful ring that wasn’t a wedding ring and it was her choice if she wanted to wear it on her wedding finger or not. On this occasion, she wanted to and it was beautiful. The groom wrote some words indicating the relevance of the ring and what his wife meant to him. Beautiful, just beautiful.

Gorgeous Rings for a renewal

I hope this has given you an insight in to how special and again how simple but beautiful a renewal of vows ceremony can be. If you would like to send me a message regarding this please do so below. It really is a beautiful ceremony and demonstrating your love to one another after a certain period of time is what the continuation of love is all about. In the words of Tina Charles – ‘I love to love’ and so do we here at Kendell Celebrant Services.

Changes in funeral services due to Coronavirus

The changes in the funeral services due to the coronavirus situation has led to many families feeling heartbroken as they are not able to say ‘goodbye’ to their loved ones in the usual way.

Services in crematoriums in Cardiff have been limited to only 10 people allowed to attend. They have to sit 2 meteres apart (social distancing) even though they may be part of the same household. There is no physical contact allowed and I have to say that this is one of the hardest things that I had to witness when conducting a funeral service in the local crematorium.

Usually, us celebrants are very tactile people and we will shake hands, maybe even hug the family, especially if we have got to know them through the process of arranging the eulogy and learning about their loved ones.We definitely have an insight as to what their loved one was really like and we in turn write the ceremony with the focus of celebrating their life.

Even though we class our ceremonies as non-religious we do include prayers, hymns, poems and readings that include religious connotations. So the families have the choice especially if they don’t have a definite faith but know that the person who’s life is being celebrated actually loved the Lord’s Prayer for example.

The article link below demonstrates just how hard the bereavement services are finding the impact of the guidelines are having on the industry and how not being able to comfort families is so heart-breaking. https://www.itv.com/news/wales/2020-04-09/it-is-the-uncertainty-of-the-situation-it-is-a-really-difficult-time-bereavement-services-adapting-during-lockdown/

As you can see there are different ways that services can be held even if the initial service has to be held virtually. I myself are offering memorials at a later date when the bereaved families are able to say Goodbye in the best way they know how – getting together, remembering their loved one, talking about them and above all being able to hug their family and friends again.

LISA KENDELL, CELEBRANT http://kendellcelebrantservices.com/funerals/

Disney Themed Wedding

Magical Disney Themed Wedding in Somerset

DISNEY THEMED WEDDING IN A MAGICAL VENUE IN SOMERSET. http://kendellcelebrantservices.com/weddings/

A themed wedding is always wonderful but is it Magical. This ceremony definitely had the WOW factor. Look at the tips and advice below on how to create a wonderful magical ceremony that includes your favourite Disney film. This wedding was based around the beautiful film of Beauty and the Beast. The wonderful couple also included the theme throughout the whole ceremony, especially for their individual vows. I’ll just say these words – ‘Until the last petal falls’.

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Disney themed wedding
  1. Choose your theme and ensure that it’s what both of you want
  2. When chosen, look at all the little details that are special to you and what you love.
  3. Re-create some scenes for decoration ideas (Beauty & the Beast – Red Rose in a glass case
  4. Choose a venue that suits your theme
  5. Make the invites yourself – Be our Guest – personalise them
  6. Get family and friends involved. They will be over the moon and be transported back to their own Disney memories.
  7. Use Disney quotes that strike a chord with you to inform your wedding vows
  8. Contact me to provide ideas on a wedding script
  9. Together we will create ideas for the whole ceremony that are about both of you, that no-one else will ever have
  10. It will be written for you and about you, with your input. I will then conduct your ceremony in the most magical way